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Hare Krishna ,
I married a Bengali girl , they eat non veg and i dont , after marriage i still dont eat but she and daughter eats , i dont like that , how to make them stop , Wife says she will leave after 55 years of age and gives all explanation that where she lived the whole community eats and in Marriage also they eat .What to do
hare Krishna Prabhuji,
I know this is very difficult to convince them
but i tell u my story before 4 yrs ago when i was full non-vegetarian. My mother also Bengali she always loves fish eating diet . But my mother when she came in Iskcon temple continuously she lefts all things. about me i m very lucky that my first aspiring teacher is my mother in my home. i was not regular in iskcon temple that time, but this time i attend every sunday special class in iskcon temple, east of kailash Delhi & i'll also started the 10 rounds of Jap-Mala from the past 1 Yrs. So dear prabhuji i think u find the answer to u'r questions in my story.
you go with u'r family to Iskcon & attend the classes with senior devotees, make sure u'r wife change his attitude about non-veg eating profile.
and finally to serve the pure vegetarian Bhog to the lord Krishna like as mishri jal pan with kaju badam , chapti's ,& fruits etc. in u'r home temple.Plz chanting also Hare Krishna Mahamantra becoz itz change everything in our life
Hare Krishna Hare Krishna, Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
I can understand your anxiety. But I think it's not you who will change the situation but only Krishna, please give yourself to Him.
If you chant regularly and all your family visits temple for every Sunday program your wife's consciousness will be changed by itself, step-by-step.
And besides you may ask your wife to learn to cook more vegetarian dishes for you and serve it to Krishna. And you may also help her to learn some new recipes. As an obedient wife she will be following your request and thus make your food more transcendental. And I hope her own preferences will change in course of time.
Success attend you! Hare Krishna!
All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
Its really difficult for u. But maybe Krishna has given you challenging & rebellious souls in your hand to handle. You can take advantage of it.
I Patience with the situation and the person
II Prayer to guru, gauranga and Krishna. Let it be sincere. The pressure should be inside you and not on the person. Divert the pressure via prayer to Krishna. I also went through a similar situation and when I came out my faith in Krishna zoomed like anything. My wife also chanting 2 rounds now. But I prayed a lot and requested many devotees to pray for her. So much so that whenever any devotee met me they first used to ask."How is mataji ?" Now when I tell them she is chanting 2 rounds they are surprised and felt happy. They all contributed with their prayers.
III Conviction in you that one day its going to change(Devotees is our community have faced far more challenging scenarios than yours. How SP brought so many fallen souls like me under the feet of Lord)
IV Time - Give her time to change. Its not easy to leave our old habits for men. But for woman its relatively easy especially for Indian woman. This should give you hope.
V Be on her side: Tell her that you know how difficult to leave it after getting used to for such a long time. Empathize with her that you appreciate that its good she is thinking of leaving after 55. Really also she is having desire to leave one day. Thats enough. Krishna will take care.
At the end all in the family will get benefited with loads of gratitude to Krishna.
All glories to Srila Prabhupada, Sri Guru and Sri Gauranga.
Hare Krishna Prabhu,
Right now im still 25yr and single. Even at my home my mom, sister, brother used to eat fish. My brother came in touch with Iskcon and at once he left eating non veg. He introduced me to Iskcon. I used to eat egg before. I was so crazy about egg that without egg i used to feel my lunch or dinner is incomplete. Then when i came to know the 4 regulative principles i left eating egg completely though it was a tough decision for me. Then i told to my mom and sis also to leave non veg. I told about the philosophy that after 84 lakh species we are getting human form of life and this is very precious. If we eat non veg we will get the sin of killing an animal and the next birth we may be born as animals and that animal will kill us.. Now they left nonveg completely and my whole family is vegetarian now...
So Prabhu, hope this inspires you to convince your family members..
Hare Krishna Prabhuji,
All glories to Srila Prabhpada.
Why are you so much in pain. It is told that Krishna Consciousness is so pure and so strong it removes the urge of others whoch are considered as sin(even non veg eating). The personal experience could be many.
You are in Grihasta Ashram. You have the right to show the direction to ur family and accepting voluntarily is the fortune of your wife and children. But if they are not accepting, then instead of feeling bad you continue your sadhana....and beg to Radha Rani for her sidelong glance. You will see slowly your family will be on right direction.
The power of prayer to Krishna can not be described with words...you can feel it.